7 Awesome (and Handsome) Indonesian Men I’d Like You to Meet

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I met a lot of great people in Indonesia while there—many of whom were men. Nice guys who were both welcoming and helpful. I found a number of them to be exotic looking and quite handsome, too, and definitely enjoyed photographing them.

I’d now like to introduce them to you here—on the C Bus. Not as eye candy (which, OK, a few of them might be considered that), but as people. Locals. Cool guys who made my trip better in some way. I hope you enjoy making their acquaintance. I know I certainly did! :)

(Although I may have a favorite or two, the order is random.)

1. Baim: the Sundanese Sweetie

Baim, Sundanese Man

Where We Met

Ubud, Bali

How We Met

I desperately needed ‘pulsa’—credit—on my telephone. It wasn’t a straightforward purchase, either, because I needed it set up for Internet. After visiting 5 stores, where no one was able to help me, I felt frustrated and ready to give up. I tried one more store and my luck changed. I met someone–a cutie named Baim—who was finally able to help me.

By the way…I thought he was Balinese at first, but I learned that he’s actually from Bandung. According to friend of mine who’s also from there, that means he’s technically ‘Sundanese.’

What Made Him Attractive

The batik shirt? Maybe. Really, I think I liked his eyes. I definitely loved his hair! My dad’s a hairdresser, so when I notice a cool haircut, I stop and take a look. I also thought Baim had a pleasant face. And most of all, a great personality.

He didn’t hesitate to help me and he treated me well. He got me what I needed without trying to up-sell or scam me and I truly appreciated it. And we chatted for a while…just because it was enjoyable.

This made me happy because I was in the center of Ubud, which is a bit of a tourist trap. Spending time in his store felt like a safe haven from the icky touts, etc. out on the street. I won’t forget his kindness any time soon!

2. Dilly–the Balinese Bad Boy

Dilly at home

Where We Met

Amed, Bali

How We Met

I had left tourist trap South Bali and headed east to Amed. This was upon the advice of a really cool British woman named Emma who lived there (whom I met, randomly, on Facebook). She told me she was married to a Balinese man and that they had a baby together and that they were building some bungalows to rent out (still under construction, but almost ready.) When I showed up, I met her and the baby and then, that night, I met her husband—Dilly.

I stayed there for a few days—at his brother’s hotel—and got to know the family. I spent a lot of time with Emma and some with Dilly and his friends. I went to a party and to a local show of sorts and got to know the locals, thanks to him. It helped me see another side of Bali, which made me happy. After being in tourist areas for too long, I needed something different.

Dilly on phone at party

What Made Him Attractive

Dilly’s a nice looking man—and although I don’t generally like tattoos, they looked good on him. And he definitely has a certain ‘bad boy’ thing going on. There’s a certain intensity there. And the Balinese hat is pretty cool, too.

What I really liked about Dilly, however, was that underneath the ‘bad boy’ exterior, he’s a bit of a softy. When he’s with his baby, whose name is Dillon, by the way, it melts your heart. You can tell he loves the kid a lot (by the way…so did I!). And oh yeah…the baby looks just like him! Watch out when he grows up!

Dillon

Dillon–one of the coolest kids ever!

Also, Dilly is a great cook. He made a fantastic meal for me and his wife while I was there—traditional Balinese fish. It was perfect! How cool is that?

3. Tiga: the Anti-Tout

Tiga, Javanese Man

Where We Met

Yogyakarta, Java

How We Met

I’d been looking for someone to give me a tour of Yogyakarta by motorbike or ketchek and I was having no luck. The touts were not bending on the price and it was hot and I was feeling frustrated. Ready to pay them whatever or to take a proper tour.

I spotted a couple of hotel workers near where I was staying and asked for their help. Tiga was one of them. He and his friends were nice and helpful; they connected me with someone who offered to take me around for a fair price. While standing there, I noticed that Tiga was nice looking–cute., actually I asked if I could photograph him for this post and he said yes.

Why I Found Him Attractive

He had a pleasant face—with nice skin and a warm smile. Also, there was something mellow and non-aggressive about him. I think he had that Javanese sense of clam. I mostly liked that he had no agenda. He just wanted to help. And in the midst of the chaos in Yogyakarta (there was a festival going on when I was there), that mini oasis was refreshing to me. Sounds a bit like Baim, right?

4. Debi: the Mild-Mannered Minangkabau Man

Debi

Where We Met

Payakumbuh Village, West Sumatra

How We Met

I was volunteer teaching (and doing teacher training) in a Minangkabau village at the middle school where Debi (‘b’ sounds live ‘v’) happened to work as a physics teacher. He was friends with (and is a coworker of) the woman I was staying with. He also ran the nearest Internet café, which I visited many times. A few nights, when it was after dark, he gave me a ride back to my friend’s house on his motorbike.

I didn’t mind at all. In fact, it was fun being on the bike with him. :)

Debi H, Sumatran Man

Why I Found Him Attractive

While Debi obviously has a handsome face–nice eyes especially–he’s a really great guy. He is a Minangkabau man, part of a special tribe that I spent close to a month living with. He has the same values as the other people I met and the ones I stayed with. Kind, caring and helpful. Like the others, he really made sure I was comfortable and had what I needed as a guest in the village.

He’s also sweet and super conscientious as a teacher, which really impressed me. His work ethic simply blew my mind. He seems to be working all the time. In fact, on weekends, he often takes his students hiking and camping!

5. Hendrik—the Hot and Cool Batak

Hendrik2

How We Met

I was in my hotel lobby having breakfast when I first saw him. My initial thoughts were—wow, he’s handsome! Is he an actor or a model?? Then, I confused him with a man a friend had mentioned who happened to have long hair. Anyway, I said hi, introduced myself and then learned that we already sort of knew each other—via e-mail contact from when I first inquired about the hotel.

After chatting off and on for a couple days, he invited me and another traveler, a Korean woman, to attend a couple of Batak weddings. We went and had a wonderful time. One of the weddings involved his very own family.

Hendrik20

Why I Found Him Attractive

He’s good looking—not doubt about it. Some would say he’s hot and perhaps that is the case. But really, what it is (for me, anyway)…is that he’s cool. Not just his looks, but how he acts and what he does.

He’s not just a pretty face. He’s a talented musician (gave me a copy of his CD, which is excellent) and a bright guy who’s dedicated to preserving the Batak culture—and to exposing tourists to it. He loves his culture and his people. When we met, he was home on vacation (he now lives in Holland) and was working to promote tourism in the area via a website and his various connections. Looks like he was doing a great job, too.

PS: You might want to check out the photo essay I did about just Hendrik called ‘The Man I Couldn’t Stop Photographing.’

6. Ben: the Batak ‘Brother’

Ben

How We Met

I met him through Hendrik. I was looking for someone to take me around the island on a motorbike (I wasn’t comfortable driving one myself) and I wanted it to be someone who spoke English well. Hendrik said that Ben was ‘like a brother to him’ because he’d been there for him during some personal crises. I liked this endorsement and thought—sure, why not.

Ben, by the way, was part of the wedding day adventure I had. I was on the bike with him for the day and along the way, he explained the area, the Protestant tombs and answered questions I had. It wasn’t a tour—it was an invitation from Hendrik—but I did offer him money to pay for gas. We also shared a couple beers, too, with Hendrik and some others.

Ben, Batak Man

Why I Found Him Attractive

I loved the long hair—and his smile. While some of the men in this post are handsome, he was definitely ‘cute.’ I think that what I liked most was that he was a fun guy who was a natural tour guide. It came naturally to him. All he had to do was be himself and explain what we were looking at. He was pleasant to hang out with. Simple as that.

7. Dino—a Dashing and Debonair Dude

How We Met

An Indonesian friend of mine, Sysilia, was concerned that I was flying into Pekanbaru, a city that rarely sees tourists. She called Dino, a friend from her university days, and asked him to meet me at the airport. And sure enough, he was able to do it.

Although we didn’t hang out for long, we ended up becoming buddies. He helped me get a SIM card for my iPhone, took me shopping for a few things I needed. And then, we had a couple of beers at a classy lounge in his city.

Why I Found Him Attractive

I admired him for kindness and generosity—the fact that he would take time out of his busy schedule and help me just because a friend asked if he could. And he was bright, so I really enjoyed our conversations. We talked about Indonesia, politics, religion and relationships and it was all quite interesting. He shared a lot of his feelings and views on a wide range of subjects and I truly enjoyed that.

And when Singapore Airlines lost my bags for a few days, he was right on it—helping me every step of the way. Even once I was 7 hours away, he continued to help me. Great guy, huh?

I also thought he was handsome with his great smile and soulful eyes. He dressed well and had a certain sophistication, too.  And yet he was a cool dude. All of this made him attractive.

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So there you have it—some of the cool men–nice guys who happened to be handsome–whom I met in Indonesia. Hope you enjoyed this post!

Your Reactions/Thoughts?

Which man or men do you like the most—and why? Is there a particular country where you happened to notice attractive men—one that stands out the most for you?

I must say that of all the countries I’ve been to, the one with the MOST handsome men was Turkey.

Can’t Get Enough?

Here are more posts about Indonesia that you may enjoy:

15 Highlights of Indonesia

8 Ways a Village Taught Me to Live in the Moment

And all of them on one page!

Note: All photos are ones I took except for the second one of Debi, which I borrowed from him, and the photos of Dino, which he allowed me to copy from his Facebook page.

51 Responses to 7 Awesome (and Handsome) Indonesian Men I’d Like You to Meet
  1. Emma
    October 30, 2012 | 1:29 am

    I think my favourite has got to be Dillon 2nd fav Dilly but I may be biased 😉

    • CB Driver
      October 30, 2012 | 10:14 am

      Hi, Emma. Totally understandable! I think he might be my fave, too. Look out when he’s old enough to date! :) Please tell Dilly thanks for letting me post his photos!

  2. Mumun
    October 30, 2012 | 7:33 am

    LOL! Love it! Enough said!
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    • CB Driver
      October 30, 2012 | 10:17 am

      Hi, Mumun! Glad you like it!

  3. Laurel
    October 30, 2012 | 8:55 am

    What a fun piece and kudos to you for meeting so many locals. It’s the people that make a place in my opinion and that you remember, long after you’ve left.
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    • CB Driver
      October 30, 2012 | 10:20 am

      Hi, Laurel–and thanks! They were really nice guys–as were most of the people I met (minus some very annoying touts in Bali!). They and the others I met did make the place–exactly!

  4. Daniel McBane - Funny Travel Stories
    October 30, 2012 | 9:40 am

    I think I may have actually spent some time talking to Ben at a restaurant when I was at Lake Toba earlier this year. If not, then it was someone who looked very similar to him. Either way, he was a really nice guy.
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    • CB Driver
      October 30, 2012 | 10:21 am

      Hi, Daniel–very cool that you may have chatted with Ben. I wouldn’t be surprised since he’s quite an extrovert and his English is very good. I wonder it was at the Samosir Hotel that you met. He seems to spend a lot of time there.

    • CB Driver
      October 30, 2012 | 10:33 am

      One more thing…I just visited your site and really liked it. Great sense of humor you’ve got! If you’re looking to do a guest post somewhere–like here on C Bus–I’d love to chat with you. Perhaps something in the humor category? Here’s a link to my humorous posts in case you’d like to take a look…

      • Daniel McBane - Funny Travel Stories
        October 30, 2012 | 1:29 pm

        Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it. I might take you up on the guest post offer sometime as that’s something I’ve been thinking about doing eventually, but probably not in the immediate future. I’m currently working on travel guides for all the places I’ve been and that’s turning out to be a lot of work. Maybe I SHOULDN’T have traveled so much…

        I talked to maybe-Ben at the Bamboo Cafe (or bar or whatever; but definitely bamboo something).

        • CB Driver
          October 31, 2012 | 1:11 pm

          Thanks for getting back to me–and let’s definitely keep in touch!

  5. Lauren Schaad
    November 1, 2012 | 9:00 am

    What an entertaining and refreshing post! These guys are adorable and I love the way you’ve written about them. Maybe you should start a business populating US-based online dating communities with fascinating international guys? Just sayin’.
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    • CB Driver
      November 1, 2012 | 11:53 am

      Thanks so much, Lauren! Glad that you liked my approach to this. I thought it was important to explain the role of the personality in their attractiveness.

      Very interesting business idea–will keep it in mind! :)

    • CB Driver
      November 1, 2012 | 11:59 am

      Just checked out your blog–love it! Really enjoyed the post on Bangladesh. Just wondering if you’re on Twitter. If so, could you let me know your handle? I’d like to follow you!

      • Lauren Schaad
        November 9, 2012 | 3:19 pm

        You bet, I’m @laurenschaad.
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  6. Elle of Solo Female Nomad
    November 3, 2012 | 2:00 pm

    Okay, my votes for Ben – for his wonderful friendly smile! I think what this post captures is that travel is all about the people you meet along the way. I only hope that I meet the above on my travels :-) Great post!
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    • CB Driver
      November 4, 2012 | 3:30 pm

      Hi, Elle. You’ve got good taste–he’s up there on my list, too! :) Glad you liked the post and I hope you meet great guys like this, too!

  7. Estrin
    November 4, 2012 | 10:26 pm

    I vote for Hendrik..He looks like a cool guy with a strong character, and he’s also attractive. My second option is Ben. I like his smile. Well, I kinda like Batak men and also Javanese. Nice post,Lisa 😉

    • CB Driver
      November 4, 2012 | 11:15 pm

      Hey, Estrin. Thanks for sharing your opinion. Glad you enjoyed this!

      All I can say is–you’ve got good taste! I have a feeling many will agree with you. :) I do think there’s a certain something about the Batak men that’s very appealing, by the way!

  8. Tom @ Waegook Tom
    November 11, 2012 | 9:45 am

    Ahh, the post I’ve been waiting for – and why am I only reading this now?! Debi is my definite favourite here – swoon at the second photo of him! Ben’s a cutie, but I’d have to chop that hair off and edge him out a little bit. I love a cute face with an edgy hairstyle. Yum yum!
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    • CB Driver
      November 13, 2012 | 12:18 pm

      Hello, Tom. So glad you finally got to see this. Knew you’d love it! :)

      Debi is beautiful on the outside and inside–what a lovely person! And that’s an interesting idea re: Ben…I love the long hair, but I like your idea. Imagine a shorter/hip style on him. Hmmm. Would be nice!

  9. Aggy
    November 18, 2012 | 6:08 pm

    Nice observations on Indonesian men! Being an Indonesian myself, I do like the multicultured guys my country has to offer 😉 oh so many to choose from!
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    • CB Driver
      November 18, 2012 | 9:39 pm

      Hi, Aggy. You’re Indonesian? Very cool! Where exactly are you from?

      I love how multicultural your country is. It’s fascinating and the men are quite handsome! :)

      • Aggy
        November 19, 2012 | 2:17 am

        I’m from Yogyakarta. Glad you feel that way (I do too!;))
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        • CB Driver
          November 19, 2012 | 8:18 am

          Oh cool! So you can go to the Mirota Dept. Store anytime you want! :)

          • Aggy
            November 19, 2012 | 8:30 am

            LOL! Not actually residing in Yogyakarta at the mo (somehow I am in Romania)…but I find Mirota Dept too crowded, but cheap stuff there :)

          • CB Driver
            November 20, 2012 | 12:13 am

            It was VERY crowded!! But the prices were good and no haggling! :)

  10. Maria
    February 2, 2013 | 11:24 am

    Awesome post to discover this morning. Scroll down, back to the top and down again – I need breakfast, I feel so weak, yet I can’t leave the screen.

    Thanks Lisa, you just fried my productivity for the day! *laugh*
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    • CB Driver
      February 3, 2013 | 12:20 pm

      Seeing these handsome men left you feeling weakened? LOL I understand that…he, he…

  11. gordang
    March 23, 2013 | 11:25 am

    Im Indonesian and i like your post,
    welcome to Indonesia

  12. Syakira
    April 9, 2013 | 10:49 pm

    Hello, it’s a nice website you have here. I’m Indonesian, and i find it surprising about the Indonesian men that you feel attractive to you. In fact, we Indonesian women mostly like white skinned man, try google Nicholas Saputra, an actor from Indonesia 😀 it’s good to know the difference of preferencess of men among culture

  13. Syakira
    April 10, 2013 | 8:09 am

    Hello, it’s a nice website you have here. I’m Indonesian, and it’s kinda surprising to know which Indonesian men that you feel attractive to you. In fact, we Indonesian women mostly like white skinned men, try to google Nicholas Saputra, Darius Sinathrya, or Christian Sugiono, some actors from Indonesia. It’s good to know the differences of preferences among culture 😀 I hope you enjoy Indonesia!
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    • CB Driver
      April 10, 2013 | 6:05 pm

      Hi, Syakira. Apa kabar? (That’s all I know, by the way.) Nice to meet you. I was surprised I found them attractive, too. Before my trip, I didn’t really know what they looked like, but when I was there, I saw what made them unique. Thanks for recommending those actors!

      So you like Caucasian men? Very interesting. I agree about the preferences among cultures.

      PS: I really liked Indonesia! I hope I can return in a few years.

      PPS: Where are you from exactly?

      • Syakira
        April 11, 2013 | 9:54 am

        Saya baik-baik saja.. (it means “I’m fine”) 😛
        Right, like Caucasian men, but most other also like Korean or Japanese men 😀

        I currently live and mostly grow up in Depok city (West Java. Near Jakarta). I wish i could travel around the world like you 😀
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        • CB Driver
          April 12, 2013 | 7:52 pm

          Saya–I remember that word! ‘Nama saya Lisa.’ :)

          West java, huh? Cool. I think you’re very lucky to live in a country like Indonesia! It’s fascinating to me–so many cultures within a culture and so many islands. Wow!

          • hanif
            September 16, 2013 | 11:15 am

            ht Lisa….Im Indonesian man,29 years old,married…when i c your face i remember my old friend named Jarka from Ceczh(i dont know how to spell it) many years a go when im on collage….just come to CEntral java and come over to my place….i will show you the real beauty of Indonesia…..taste local food,visiting some mountain…i’ll give you for free….just gimmi a call when you wanna come…
            +6287700272253 orr add my face book..hanif darussalam (hanif_286@yahoo.com)….

  14. ben
    June 23, 2013 | 3:10 pm

    hai lisa, im a man from indonesia.
    i just read your article and im very happy about that.

    as an indonesian man, i hopes to marry caucasian woman someday. lol

    • CB Driver
      June 23, 2013 | 9:30 pm

      Hi, Ben. Glad that reading the article made you happy. I hope you meet a woman you like–Caucasian or Indonesian. Good luck!

  15. hanif
    September 16, 2013 | 11:11 am

    come to my place…in wonosobo…central java….located near Jogjakarta….then i will show you the best palce in java.Mountain view,meeting local,and taste local food…….just gimmie a call….i’ll drive you 100% Free…heheheheh
    +6287700272253…
    im waiting for you visiting my place…

  16. Anggi
    July 5, 2014 | 6:16 pm

    It’s refreshing to read your article. There is rarely a website which talks about Indonesian men as individuals, not as fascinating objects. Thank you for writing this! 😀

    • CB Driver
      July 8, 2014 | 3:38 pm

      Thanks, Anggi. They were nice guys–glad to have met them.

  17. theissen
    March 3, 2015 | 12:28 pm

    hii there, i was a sundanese actualy but my name was germany.have we meet before in nusa dua bali?

    • CB Driver
      March 23, 2015 | 3:01 pm

      Hi. I think so, but I’m not sure. Which one are you?

  18. Fey
    July 15, 2015 | 6:34 am

    what a great experience…. I’ve read your travel stories, and it all so good.

  19. Annisa Riashinta
    August 14, 2015 | 8:57 am

    I like your article, I appreciate that the way you described Indonesian men, it’s cute. keep that, and maybe next time you can visit Indonesia again and write about something else, something like Indonesian foods, maybe :)

    • CB Driver
      August 17, 2015 | 9:51 am

      Hi, Annisa. Glad you enjoyed the article. You might want to check out the other posts on Indonesia (link here); there are quite a few on a wide range of topics including people and cultural events.

  20. Benjamin
    September 15, 2015 | 12:36 pm

    Hi CB Driver, love your article. Thanks
    Indonesian man here. I’m from Moluccas.

    Anybody wants to make friends / maybe more 😛
    Please visit my:
    FB: Benjamin Melatnebar Wuarmanuk I/II/III
    Whatsapp: +6281 7114 318
    Instagram: bensky1981
    email:

  21. thaliana smith
    October 20, 2015 | 12:26 am

    i’m indonesian girl. at first i like foreign guys. any foreign guys (maybe because i see too much indonesian guys, haha). I’ve dating chinese, European guys…. and after some time, I personally think Indonesian guys are the best. Because they know how to treat their women like queen haha. My boyfriend-right now-even start doing all of my jobs if I start complaining about it :D. And they somehow has the “taboo-rules” for sex, which is good so that you can know whether they’re really in love with you-or not, if sex is not involved in here. But beware, some guys maybe don’t want you to surpass his career, let’s say. Or willing to keep you at home, little bit over jealous, and don’t like when other guys find you perfectly hot or sexy then your boyfriend will start complaining and tell you to put proper clothes on (yeah-no hot pants anymore)

  22. Bejo
    November 3, 2015 | 10:10 pm

    Hello my lady, nice story about indonesia men. Im proud to be indonesia man
    I hope someday we can meet

    Bejo from kalimantan

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