Smoking Cigs with Gypsy Peanut Woman (Random Travel Moment #11)

Gypsy Peanut Lady

Why is this woman, a gypsy traveling by ferry (somewhere between Eminonu and Sariyer), smiling with a peanut in between her teeth? And how about that expression on her face–what was she thinking/feeling? And how the heck did I, a nonsmoker, end up smoking a couple of cigs with her–and yeah, eating some of her peanuts?

Read on to find out just what led to Random Travel Moment 11.

Gypsy Peanut Lady

How It Began

At first, I simply wanted a photo or two of the woman and her family. They intrigued me because of the intense looks on their faces–especially hers. Their clothing got my attention, too.

Also, the daughter sat too close to the edge of the ferry a few times and her mom got upset with her. That little bit of drama definitely got my attention.

Gypsy family2

After a while, our eyes met (the mom’s and mine).  At one point, she cracked a smile. I smiled back. She kept looking and so did I. (Maybe she was just as curious about me as I was about her?)

Where? On a Ferry in the Bosphorus

We were on a commuter ferry that travels from Eminonu in Istanbul up to Sariyer (near the Black Sea), making a number of stops along the way. I would be getting off close to the end of the route. I had no idea where she and her family were going. All I knew is that I enjoyed the connection we were making.

Who? A Family of Gypsies

I didn’t realize they were gypsies at first. But when I saw the plastic bags full of stuff–peanuts, cigarettes, paper plates and plastic utensils and other things–I figured it out.


She offered me peanuts

The more smiling there was, the more interesting it got. She started to snack on peanuts and offered me some. I accepted. They were great, too.

We tried to chat

In between cracking peanuts open, I tried to speak to her, using sentences from my Turkish phrase book. Unfortunately, that didn’t go well. I kept asking, “Where are you from?” She didn’t understand, even when I pointed to the phrase. I showed her a map, too. And she finally said, “Istanbul.” I’m not sure if that was the case, but it didn’t matter. What mattered was that we were connecting somehow.

I learned, with help from nearby Turks, that she had two children. I recall finding out their names, too, but now I can’t remember (this happened a couple of years ago). I could see that she loved both of them (and her husband) very much.

Gypsy mom n daughter

And then we smoked

After a chat with her daughter about something that looked serious, she rejoined me. She pulled out a pack of cigarettes and offered me one. I don’t smoke, but every once in a while (like once a year), I’ll have one and do it Bill Clinton style–only inhaling.

So that’s what I did.

And with the wind coming off of the water, the smoke dissipated quickly. It was pleasant. And as a former smoker, I know that it’s a way people sometimes bond. The ritual of it, the shared moment.

I recall having a second cigarette and her looking pleased. I got the feeling that it made her happy to be giving something to me. That’s why I didn’t mind smoking despite being a nonsmoker. I wanted to accept her gift.

What Made This Experience Special

I love to connect with people in other cultures. Nothing makes me happier. And in this case, it was tricky due to the language barrier. Even so, we found a way. And even though our time together was brief, it was special nevertheless. I believe it came from the heart.

Maybe words aren’t always necessary.

Can’t help but wonder…

The family got off the ferry before I did. The son took some photos of me with his cell phone. I can’t help but wonder what would have happened if we’d gotten off at the same stop.

Do you think we would have continued to ‘communicate’? I think we might have–unless they needed to get to work, which is possible.

Your Thoughts? Reactions? Two Cents?

Have you ever met strangers while on public transportation and attempted to communicate with no common language? If so, where were you and what happened? Were you able to make the connection?

PS: I have another version of this story, told very differently. In that version, it’s more a tale of a ‘namaste’ sort of encounter–ie, when two people meet and the light, or spirit, of each honors the light in the other. If you’d be interested in reading that (it’s a full length story and much deeper than what you’ve read here), let me know. Maybe I’ll post that one, too.

Hungry for More?

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11 Responses to Smoking Cigs with Gypsy Peanut Woman (Random Travel Moment #11)
  1. Michele Peterson
    December 19, 2013 | 3:15 am

    Yes, I can see why you would have made a connection with her – she looks full of life. The red shirt with teddy bears is a tip off for sure that she’s got personality! Her daughter looks lovely as well. I’ve definitely taken a few swigs of questionable-looking home brews on my travels but don’t remember ever smoking anything. Good for you for your adventurous spirit.
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    • CB Driver
      December 19, 2013 | 10:15 am

      Hi, Michele. You’re so right–she was full of life. I really enjoyed our encounter, as brief as it was.

      Questionable-looking home brew? Cool. Those can be quite good, depending on how their made.

  2. Maria
    December 19, 2013 | 8:04 am

    This is the type of moment travelers live for!
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    • CB Driver
      December 19, 2013 | 10:13 am

      Yes, definitely–makes travel a richer experience!

      • Laura Zera
        December 19, 2013 | 11:49 pm

        Agree with Maria, that’s the best kind of travel experience you could hope for! And I totally love her polar bear jammy top.
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        • CB Driver
          December 24, 2013 | 1:03 pm

          Yeah, the polar bear jammy top was cute…one of many reasons I just had to connect with her. :)

  3. Hogga
    December 19, 2013 | 11:30 am

    haha love
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    • CB Driver
      December 19, 2013 | 10:32 pm

      I think you would have smoked with her, too. :)

  4. Anne
    December 28, 2013 | 4:04 pm

    This is what makes traveling exciting and wonderful – when you can find a way to communicate with people anywhere you go.

    • CB Driver
      December 29, 2013 | 5:06 pm

      Hi, Anne. I totally agree. It’s my favorite thing to do.

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